This can be hard for parents to think about, and harder still for them to talk to young children about. But it is very necessary. In the somewhat tongue-in-cheek blog post, How To Raise Racist Kids, Jonathan Liu points out that the single best way to perpetuate bias is:
Don’t talk about race. Don’t point out skin color. Be “color blind.”He offers evidence to back this up, and then point us on to five tips for talking about racism with kids.
The other day, I was having a conversation with a prospective parent (who was white) about the importance of a diverse environment for young children to learn, "especially in today's world," a refrain I often hear. I enthusiastically agreed with him, adding, however, that simply being in a diverse environment does not teach young children to understand and resist the prejudice that subtly (and not always so subtly) infiltrates our society. We must do what we may not have been taught do to (especially if we are white), and talk about it, everyday, even if it is awkward, or we don't get it just right the first time. Because Black history isn't important just one month of the year, and understanding identity, diversity, and bias don't just happen magically.
What happens at your house? Does your child talk about race? Do you feel comfortable talking with them about race? Do you talk with other families about race?
(And now I will get off my soap box, and go back to teaching. Thanks for listening!)
We definitely talk about race, diversity, being sensitive to issues of inclusion/exclusion, and developing non-discriminatory attitudes and behaviors in our family/household, but then again we are a family of color, and I am a diversity professional! For those interested in reading or learning more about the science of why children must be actively taught how to develop anti-bias attitudes, and why passive "colorblind" parenting generates counter-intuitive results, I would highly recommend a piece that ran in Newsweek several years ago titled "See Baby Discriminate." The research is fascinating and compelling. I am attaching a link here http://www.thedailybeast.com/newsweek/2009/09/04/see-baby-discriminate.html
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